Being a Mom is the most blessed feeling in the world. But it brings lots of changes in your life. You learn to do many things, in fact, multitask, sometimes laugh with the baby or cry when falling ill. If being a first-time mom is a swing in the park then having two is like a roller coaster ride when you don’t realize how time flies and they grow old. When your little one grows around 2-3 years old a constant pressure from the family starts for the second one.
A woman in Indian is always under a constant pressure to get married, learn household chores, plan a baby, plan the second, etc.There is no harm in planning a second baby but who decides the right age, the family situation etc.Some plan two children in a year to minimize distortion in their career.
Planning Second Baby
Sit and consider with your partner why do you want a second child, without letting peer or family pressure influence your decision. The decision should entirely be between the two of you. Tomorrow, we may not be there but our children should have someone as close as us to accompany in their happiness and sorrow.
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Health conditions of the mommy need to be considered. I mean unlike the first for second pregnancy you will have to baby life your first one many times. So there will be physical stress also back pain or any other complications during the first one should be considered. Also, the biological clock starts ticking after 35 so planning a second before 35 is always advisable.
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Finances the most important aspect should always be kept in mind. Second baby means additional expenses of everything that you have for the first one. Sometimes a careers setback so only one family member is earning also an additional help is required to take care of the baby so you need to keep a maid or helper.
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Mentally and Physically parenting is very demanding so if you are planning for a second child be prepared to sacrifice a lot of things like parties, movies, alone time, date nights etc. Etc. It takes two to raise two, managing two kids in the nuclear family setup is no game even if you have maids or nanny parents needs to step in and raise the kids.
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Check with your elder one, is he/she prepared to welcome the new change in the family. Are they old enough to do some of their tasks on their own, potty trained or maybe going to school? These aspects help a lot when you want to take care of another child. You should even start teaching him/her to sleep alone so that at night you don’t have to worry for the first one; sometimes daddy alone can handle them.
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In all, planning a second is completely a decision that relies on the parents and all the aspects should be discussed and then things should be taken forward. Abortion in India is legal until three months so instead of going by what others say judge your own situation and chose the best.
If you plan a second then I feel 5 years is an ideal gap, mom is mentally prepared and the body has also recovered from the previous pregnancy. The older kid is ready to go to school and do some of the chores on their own. Also, financially you become stable in life and can take off another child.
What according to u is the perfect age gap? What’s the age gap between your kids and how do you feel about it? Let me know your experience in the comments below……… Also, let me know what u feel of the article 🙂
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