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But do you know that 1/4th of couples in India face immense challenges in conceiving a baby? This is infertility – a condition of involuntary childlessness where you want to have a child but can’t get it medically right somehow.
Today, I want to draw your attention towards this problem of infertility and how you as a society can help build a better environment for women undergoing this.
I am sure you must have heard amidst hushes and silence that your friend or a distant cousin or a neighbour doesn’t have a child even after so and so years of marriage. Right? But what you don’t know is what to do. You want to help but don’t know how or out of your naiveness just don’t approach them right or simply avoid the conversation to save an awkward moment. Well, trust me this is a natural and ever prevalent feeling.
Let’s first understand in nutshell what infertility is and what women face during this problem
Needless to say, social stereotypes and mindset is such that infertility is immediately connected to one’s manhood or womanhood. It then becomes a question of your being, a question on your self-worth – rather than being just a medical condition. Condescending word like ‘Banjh’ is used in reference to an infertile woman and social embarrassment is caused when such a woman is not allowed to participate in a particular festival or ceremony for she might bring bad luck as she herself is cursed not to have a child.
Couples going through infertility face helplessness from all quarters. Socially they feel neglected. Medically, they feel confused as doctors make them run from pillar to post. Depression is seen due to marital discord. Financially, one has to compromise other things to fund the treatment as the costs attached are quite high. Sometimes, pressure from the immediate family is so high that it causes stress. And, most importantly, the desire to have a baby is so innate and as the years go by it transforms into desperation that taking the right decision becomes difficult.
How You Can You Help?
Remember, never to probe. Just be a friend and be there for them. Here are a few pointers you can take the cue from:
Do not make the issue obvious by asking a direct question
Only get involved if asked to
Don’t call or let them feel like a ‘bhanjh’
Give them hope and strength
Create a happy and stress-free environment around them
Connect them to us – InfertilityDost
Help Them Not To
Don’t let them run to astrologers and fake babaji’s
Don’t let them fall into depression
Don’t let them choose a wrong doctor
Don’t let them play blame game and disturb their marital relationship
Don’t let them blame their kismat or past karma
Don’t let them lose HOPE
What InfertilityDost Does?
InfertilityDost is India’s first platform that facilitates and empowers couples undergoing infertility with the right tools so that they can make good and informed choices. Through our blogs and true stories we are spreading awareness, accurate information and hope. We hold hand, facilitate right guidance so that couples can take good decisions and stay away from misleading advertisements and fraud clinics, answer their queries by connecting them to experts, keep them motivated throughout this tough phase of life, reinforcing their strength and hope, helping them #StandUp and fight society’s stereotypes and prejudices, and simply reassuring them that everything is gonna be all right.
InfertilityDost found its genesis from personal journey of its founder, who herself went through this gruelling medical condition for 10 long years thereby realising the need to break the silence and taboo around.
Now, they reach out to couples and help them ensure pain with dignity.
Founder of Infertility Dost
Gitanjali is the founder of InfertilityDost, India’s first website that focuses on the rising issue of infertility in India. It facilitates couples to brave infertility with support and knowledge. Having braved infertility for 10 years herself, she resolved to do her bit by spreading awareness and extending support to the couples who suffer in silence and pain. A content manager by profession, she blogs avidly through her personal travel blog, Travel By Karma, considers Kindle as her prized possession and enjoys gourmet cooking.
What do you think about this initiative, please spread awareness about it if you know anyone who is going through this phase and they will thank you for life.
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